Friday, January 29, 2010

Thursday with Mom and Dad...

Ollie, Danny and I spent several hours at Mom and Dad's house Thursday. The timing was great because the owner of the company who is providing their 24-hour care came to see how things were going and find out what they could do to improve things at the house. It was good for us to be there, support Mom and give input. I think the biggest issue is that Mom and Dad are paying for 24-hour care and don't really need that any more. You know how that German comes out in Mom!!! The caretaker is only needed during the day, and mostly in the morning. So, we are considering reducing care to mornings and evenings, giving Mom and Dad back their privacy during the mid-day and nights. They'll each wear those alert buttons in case there are any problems. We're working on a schedule and probably will change over to hourly care in the very near future.

Jean had spent the day with Mom and Dad on Wednesday. She said the occupational therapist worked a lot with Dad's right arm and hand. He can get Dad to make a slight fist with his right hand and is diligently working with his range of motion in the shoulder. Dad is able to lift that arm a little bit. He wouldn't do it for us on Thursday, though. It may have been sore, I don't know.

That's all to report for now...Love, Sandi

Saturday, January 23, 2010

News flash!!!

Dad can now use his walker, unassisted, and walk from the corner of the bedroom, down their long hallway, to the living room wood-burning stove and back to the bedroom!!!! That's HUGE!!!

This week we have given Dad two requirements in order to cease full-time home care and change over to just day-time care (mostly to help Mom with household chores and do daily therapy with Dad). First, Dad has to be able to get on and off the toilet without assistance and, two, he has to be able to get in and out of his bed unassisted. Using the walker is the best thing to gain strength in his legs to enable those requirements!!! Dad does not use any assistance from the full-time caretaker at night, and would like very much to only have someone in their home from about 9 a.m. until about 6 p.m. rather than live there 24-7. That will make him AND Mom very happy!!!!!

Oh,come let us sing
of our rock of salvation.
All of us present;
let us come with thanksgiving
making joyful noise with psalms ~ Psalm 95

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Trip to town...

Mom and Dad came to Austin today for lunch with Sandi. Ollie, Danny and Robert (who then had to go to work). We all thoroughly enjoyed the fantastic baby back ribs that Ollie grilled (okay, my potato salad and beans were pretty good too, if I do say so myself!!!)!

After lunch Mom and I spent about 4 hours running around while Danny, Ollie and Dad visited at our house. Danny and Ollie spent a good bit of time seeing how well Dad could write. He did great with smaller words like "rat". Then Ollie tested him by asking him to write "Marble Falls!" Dad said a big "Hah" when Ollie said to write that one, but, lo and behold, he could almost do it!!!

Glenda got to run by for a little while to make a Whole Foods delivery for Mom. Actually, nothing very exciting, just Glucosamine! Oh well, it can't always be fun stuff!!! Not fun, but necessary to help Mom!

When Mom and I got back to the house Dad and the guys were outside enjoying our gorgeous weather! I feel so sorry for everyone else who is suffering from earthquakes, flooding and winter snow storms. We've been so very blessed with a week of outstanding weather in Austin!

Last, but not least, Dad's legs are surprisingly stronger! He amazed us when he was able to step up into the Suburban when they were loading up to go home! He grabs hold of the handle by the door of the vehicle and pulls and lifts at the same time! He's got it going!!! More progress!!! Thank you with all our hearts for being faithful with your prayers for his progress!! They're working!!!

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

All's fair on the home front...

Not too much to report today...Dad is pretty status-quo and Mom is as busy as ever! Now that the holidays are behind us, we are all back into our daily routines.

Mom will be coming to town this week on Thursday. Dad 's going to ride along and stay at my house with Ollie and Danny while we girls go out! Dad doesn't love coming into town, but the bribe of spending time with a couple of the boys worked! The change of scenery will be good for both Mom and Dad!

I pray your New Year is going well and that you and your loved ones are healthy and happy! I'll talk to you soon! Sandi


Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Drum roll please!!!

I just got off the phone with Mom and I can't type fast enough to tell you that Dad can walk UNASSISTED with his walker!!! He can go a good distance (ie from the bed to the bathroom) without tiring!!! Oh my dear Lord! Thank you for answering our prayers!!!

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning ~ Lamentations 3:22-23



Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Tuesday with Harvey (and Mildred!)

Ollie and I spent several hours with Mom and Dad yesterday. When we arrived Dad was relaxing in a recliner in their bedroom next to the window so he could see us drive in as well as look out over their place. He and Mom really love it out there! The speech therapist had already come and gone. Mom walked back to the bedroom with us and asked Dad to say hello to us. He responded by looking at us and saying an "ah" sound! It is very good that his brain is responding to his wanting to say a word! Previously, he did not attempt to say anything when asked to do so. The connection is now there!

Pretty shortly after we got there Dad showed me that he needed a manicure! That's been my job for years! Of course I immediately got the clippers and emery board and did his manicure! It's an honor to be able to do that for him! I wish I could do more!

Dad is has a very good appetite and is eating well with his left hand. We all ate lunch and then Dad settled into his napping mode in the living room recliner. I made a deal with Mother that, if she would also get in her recliner, Ollie and I would take her recycling in for her. Bless her heart! Mom just can't throw away cans, plastic, paper or glass! She had enough stuff that it filled up half the bed of the Tundra! I'm not making fun of her...she's a fine example for all of us! Dad's pick-up hasn't been used since his stroke, so Ollie fired it up and we drove it to get the fluids circulated, charge up the battery and deliver the recyclables to the Center in Marble Falls. Mom complied with our agreement and sat in her recliner and caught up on reading some of the newspapers while we were gone. When we got back to their house we loaded Dad into the front seat of the truck and the four of us went for a drive to Dad's nearby developments, Stone Mountain and Cavern Ranches. Dad would point to where he wanted Ollie to turn and that's where we'd go!!! He seemed to enjoy getting out in the truck and cruising around.

Mom saw us out to the car when we left and said how our visit sure made their day go by faster, especially for Dad. She said she is sure that he gets bored just sitting around every day. Please feel free to call Mom and schedule a visit! Therapy is generally scheduled on Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Even on those days it is always okay to visit after about 2:30 or so. Believe me, if Dad gets tired he'll just close his eyes and rest, so don't take it personally!!! His brain is still healing and the rest is good for him! However, so is the stimulation of visits!!!

If you'll bear with the length of the following poem, I would like to share it with you. I received it in an email this morning. It was written by a man who was in a geriatric center in Nebraska and was found by the nurses cleaning out his room after he passed away. The old man's sole bequest has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the St Louis Association for mental health. And this little old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this 'anonymous' poem winging across the Internet. You can go to youtube.com and listen to videos by typing in merely, "Crabby Old Man. My love to all! Sandi

Crabby Old Man

WHAT DO YOU SEE NURSES?...WHAT DO YOU SEE?
What are you thinking . .. . . . when you're looking at me?
A crabby old man . . . . . not very wise,

Uncertain of habit . . . . . with faraway eyes?

Who dribbles his food . . . . . and makes no reply.

When you say in a loud voice . . . . . 'I do wish you'd try!'

Who seems not to notice . .. . . . the things that you do.
And forever is losing . . . . . A sock or shoe?

Who, resisting or not . . . . . lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding . . . . . The long day to fill?
Is that what you're thinking? .. . . . . Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse . . . . . you're not looking at me.

I'll tell you who I am. . . . . . As I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, . . . . . as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of Ten . .. .. . . with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters . . . . . who love one another.

A young boy of Sixteen .. . . . with wings on his feet.
Dreaming that soon now . . . . . a lover he'll meet.
A groom soon at Twenty . . . . . my heart gives a leap.
Remembering, the vows . . . . . that I promised to keep.

At Twenty-Five, now . .. . . . I have young of my own.
Who need me to guide . . . . . And a secure happy home.
A man of Thirty . . . . . My young now grown fast,
Bound to each other . . . .. . With ties that should last.

At Forty, my young sons . . . . . have grown and are gone,
But my woman's beside me . . . .. . to see I don't mourn.
At Fifty, once more, babies play 'round my knee,
Again, we know children .. . . . . My loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me . . . . . my wife is now dead.
I look at the future . . . . . shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing . . . . . young of their own.
And I think of the years . .. . . . and the love that I've known

I'm now an old man . . . . . and nature is cruel.
Tis jest to make old age . . . . . look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles . . . . . grace and vigor, depart.
There is now a stone . . .. . where I once had a heart.

But inside this old carcass . . . . . a young guy still dwells,
And now and again . . . . . my battered heart swells.
I remember the joys . . . . . I remember the pain.
And I'm loving and living . . . . . life over again.

I think of the years, all too few . . . . . gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact . . . . that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people . . . . . open and see.
Not a crabby old man . . . Look closer .. . . see ME!!

Remember this poem when you next meet

an older person who you might brush aside

without looking at the young soul within.
We will all, one day, be there, too!

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The best and most beautiful things of
this world can't be seen or touched.
They must be felt by the heart.




Monday, January 4, 2010

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

WOW! It seems so weird to say it's 2010! I remember when I was a kid figuring out how old I'd be in the year 2000! That seemed like the space age! Now it's 10 years later! Thank you God for letting me get this far!!!

Mom and Dad came to our house on New Year's Day and stayed about 3 hours. Dad enjoyed being there with most of the other family members and a few of our friends. He was pretty quiet, but Mom said that the therapists had worked him pretty hard on the previous day. She wasn't very happy about that and intends to talk to the about being persistent in helping Dad to make progress but not wearing him out! I think they tried to make up for the days that they'd miss seeing him because of the holidays. You have to give them credit for their interest, but Dad just can't take the overzealousness!

His condition at the moment is status quo, but as we all know his brain is still healing. I was visiting with a friend who is a surgeon in Nevada. He said that the brain is very slow to heal and that things will continue to change and progress even over the length of a year or two. All of us remain prayerful and optimistic. We don't care what the statistics say or what the doctors say, because none of them seem to take into account the Harvey-factor or the God-factor!!! As Isaiah 55:9 says, "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts." God is watching over Dad and is in control! We all live in faith, including Mom and Dad!

Talk to you soon! Love to all! Sandi