Jean and Dad!

Today was Jean's day to drive Dad to his therapy appointments. He was scheduled for physical and speech therapy today. Since I just told you about physical therapy, I'll tell you now about speech therapy! Jean watched and took notes! Dad's speech therapist has been doing that for 40 years! So she's blessing us with lots of experience in her field! She had Dad do quite a few different "exercises." For example, she had him do a puzzle of the alphabet. He got most of the letters correct, but missed one small area. She told Jean that, each time he does the puzzle, he misses a small area and it's not always the same area. She gave Dad a quiz that first made a statement like, "The boy lost his dog." The other side of the sheet asks, "What did the boy lose?" and Dad is supposed to write the answer on a line. He could answer the simpler questions. He could even write what I would consider a harder word, "Chicago," as one of the answers. But, later, when she asked him the same question, he missed Chicago. She said that is a symptom of Dad's aphasia. I looked up aphasia for you...according to Wikipedia, it is a language disorder in which there is impairment of any language modality. Depending on the area and extent of brain damage (in this case, from the stroke), someone suffering with aphasia may be able to speak but not write, or vice versa, or display any of a wide variety of other deficiencies in language comprehension and production, such as being able to sing but not speak. In Dad's case, it affects his speech, his reading comprehension and his ability to take a thought and transfer it to paper They have tested Dad's eyesight and found that he has no peripheral vision in his right eye. It makes me wonder if he can hear with his left ear. If you approach him from the right side, often times he does not acknowledge you at all. This explains why! The therapist sent Dad home with a hand mirror and exercises. We're supposed to have him look in the mirror and watch himself saying ooooo's, ahhhs, ohhhhs as well as have him smile, pucker his lips, etc. That's something that Jean and I can do with Dad because Mom's days just get away from her too quickly.

Mom and Dad are due here tomorrow morning at 8:00 so we can head to the airport! As I told you earlier, we will be north of Steamboat Springs Thursday nght through Sunday morning! The low this morning in Steamboat was 44, but we are about 1000 feet higher than that!!! YEEHAW!!! We girls hope to get in a LOT of R & R and the guys will play some golf, tell some "stories" and, you know, do guy stuff!!! We're all really excited about going! I can't wait to tell you all about it!!!

Jerry will be at Mom and Dad's Monday to help her unpack and do laundry from the trip. I go back out there Wednesday because Dad has therapy in the morning and acupuncture in the afternoon, so Mom can do other things and not have to be gone most of the day. So, until next week, may God keep us all safe and healthy! Amen! Love, Sandi

I now don a chauffeur's hat!

Monday I arrived at Mom and Dad's at 9:30. Dad's physical therapy appointment was scheduled for 10:15, so I didn't want to arrive too early and make Mom feel rushed, but I did want to get there early enough to help her, if she needed it. She got Dad dressed, they ate breakfast and Dad and I were out the door about 9:50. It was so cool because I didn't know where in to go in Burnet, so Dad told me where to turn, which building it was in, and exactly which parking spot he likes to use! Like I have said, most of the time he has no problem getting his point across!

His usual physical therapist was out and he had a young, cute therapist to work with! Of course, he hated that! He's still such a flirt! Here's a list of the things she worked on...

> stretching and range of motion exercises for his right shoulder, arm, wrist and hand.

> she had Dad lift his shoulders and pinch his shoulder blades together. ..his muscle control is much improved

> she put on his ankle brace and had Dad walk around the room with his hemi-walker. His balance is appreciably better since the first time I saw him use it! Her goal was to get Dad to focus on looking where he was going rather than at his feet.

> sitting and standing to continue strengthening his leg muscles

> lunges with each leg while holding on to the parallel bars

> side steps holding onto the bars and focusing on keeping his feet straight

> bending his legs and pulling each of his knees up and down and then lifting each leg while holding it straight

> marching in place

> and, finally, standing on a spongy surface, not holding on, and using his leg and buttocks muscles to balance

So, physical therapy wears Dad out! He watches the big clock in the room and points to it when his hour is up!!! From therapy we went back to the house for lunch and a nap!!! However, he was pretty grumpy when Mom went back to the bedroom and told him it was time for me to take him to acupuncture! Apparently we were making too much noise talking and doing dishes, so he never got to sleep! Oops!!!

So, off we went to acupuncture for Dad's 2:30 appointment. When the acupuncturist came out to get him, he didn't smile at all. She teased with Dad and told him not to be so grumpy! She took him on back and the treatment lasted an hour. When she brought Dad out, he was all smiles!!! Not only did he have a good nap during the treatment, but I do believe that the treatment enhances his mood! On the way home, I reached over, patted Dad on the arm and said, "I love you Dad!" He laughed out loud like, "Yeah right!" The mood inside the suburban was much lighter on the way home than it was on the way there!!! Once we were home, I talked to Dad about acupuncture and how his attitude will help the success of the treatments. I pointed out to him that it has improved his facial control...that he didn't drool at all and that his smile is straight and whole! I think he really listened to me. Hopefully he will be more positive the next time he goes.

While we were gone during the morning, Mom prepped lunch and, in the afternoon, she did some laundry. She seemed so much less stressed with having someone there to do the driving for Dad. Jean is going Wednesday and do pretty much what I did, except I think Dad has speech and physical therapies and no acupuncture. I have a hard time keeping up with his appointments if I don't have Mom's calendar right in front of me! She sure does a good job of keeping them written down! Thank goodness, because there's no consistency so far!

Now for the best part! I kissed Dad and Mom and headed out the door for home. Mom hollered "Bye" to me as I was going out the door and DAD CALLED OUT AND ALSO SAID BYE!!! I quickly turned around and went to him and siad, "Did you just tell me bye?" Mom said, "He sure did!" I was so elated and told Dad so! Then I said, "Okay now tell me that you love me!" And, Dad siad, "Ah, M, Ooo!" THANK YOU DEAR GOD!!! Just to hear him making sounds and attempting to talk is so unbelievably fantastic!!!

Mom told me this evening that she has already packed Dad's suitcase for Colorado and she'll work on hers tomorrow. It's going to be tough on her to get here by 8:30 on Thursday, but I'll bet she makes it!

Ollie is taking his laptop on our trip, so I'll try to blog while we're in Colorado. If not, I promise to catch up as soon as we get home! Lord please grant us safe and uneventful travels!!! Amen!

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

I hope each of you Dads had a wonderful Father's Day and did exactly what you wanted to do!

Our celebration was held at Glenda's house. Mom had toyed with the idea of having us all gather at their house, but then decided she'd like to come and go at their leisure! We all got to Glenda's about 11:00 and were concerned when Mom called and said that Dad was having some dizziness. She had him resting in his chair with hopes that he would feel better once she was ready to go. Thankfully, he was feeling much better after he rested, so they were able to come! Glenda lives off 71 west in South Austin, so it's not a bad drive for them from Marble Falls.

Dad really enjoyed getting loving attention from the four of us kids, our spouses, and the grand kids and great-grand kids that were there. We were all also thrilled that Troy and Terri were able to join us! Dad gets a big kick out of watching 3 year olds Mia and Austin and their antics! They play so well together and are quite entertaining! We all marveled at Glenda's prolific garden and thoroughly enjoyed fresh tomatoes on our burgers! She was also generous with all of us and sent us home with bags of fresh produce! YUM!!!

We girls had a little "meeting" with Mom to see if she will let us do more to help her. She said that she would be willing to let us take Dad to one of his therapy sessions each week. He is now going Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Of course, we are thrilled to do so! We also suggested that she allow Jerry, their part-time aide, to take Dad on at least one of the other days. Her reasoning in not letting him take Dad is that she hates to pay him to" just sit there" while Dad is in therapy! We said that we thought they could afford that and, whatever it cost, it was worthwhile if it gave her a break! She chuckled at herself and reminded us of how tight she is!!! I've never thought of Mom as tight, but she is very, very frugal!

Tomorrow, I am going to get Dad and take him to therapy. I'm excited about that because I'll get to witness what happens there and then blog about it! Jean is going to go Wednesday and give Mom a chance to pack for Colorado without interruption.

We are witnessing some progress with this round of therapy and with the re-introduction of acupuncture! Today, Dad called Jean over to the window and pointed to a couple of cars that he didn't recognize. He was saying the letter "M", which is new! Another big improvement we've noticed is Dad's control over his mouth and face. Not to sound disrespectful, but Dad has been having a problem with drooling. I did not see him drool one time today and Mom said it has been that way since she started taking him for acupuncture treatments! Dad was very resistant to acupuncture while in the hospital and when he first got to go home. However, he now gives it the big thumbs up!!!

When Mom and Dad were leaving, I leaned in to the suburban and told Dad that I loved him. Mom told him to tell me and he did, in his own way! She said she gets him to tell her he loves her every night when he goes to bed! For the 64 years that they have been married, they have never gone to sleep without a good-night's kiss and without saying "I love you" to each other! Theirs is a great example to follow!!!

Mom, Dad, Lisa and Danny and Ollie and I leave Thursday morning for our trip to Fran and Jimmy Callahan's lodge outside Steamboat Springs Colorado! Mom is a little bit nervous about having to be at our house by 8:15 Thursday morning, especially since Dad likes to sleep until at least 9:00! I tried to talk her in to coming here to spend Wednesday night, but she said it will be better to sleep in their own bed that night and leave from home that morning. It made her feel a little better when I reminded her that she and Dad could nap on the 2-hour flight from Austin to Denver and on the 4 hour drive from Denver to the lodge. Keep your fingers crossed that they make it here on time!

Dad will spend Friday and Saturday with the guys on the golf course. If he gets tired, we girls can go pick him up. Otherwise, Mom, Lisa and I are going to be lazy and do nothing but relax, read and/or go for little walks! I can hardly wait!!! Mom does want to go to Wal-Mart in Steamboat and see if they have long-sleeved collared golf-type shirts for Dad. We have looked and looked, but there are none to be found in Austin or Marble Falls - it's just not the right season for long sleeves down here! If we don't find them in Colorado, I'll do some on-line shopping.

Again, God bless all you wonderful Dads! I honor all of you!

Didn't happen...

Dad wasn't feeling well early today, having trouble with some nausea, so Mom cancelled her appointment and they stayed home. I checked on them off and on all day. Dad slept most of the morning and woke up feeling much better. In fact, he and Leslie went out to the deer camp this evening to have steaks and play poker with Danny and Ollie and the rest of the guys! That's always good incentive for him to feel better! Those guys get out there and laugh and have a great time! That's so good for Dad! Mirth is God's medicine. Everybody ought to bathe in it. ~Henry Ward Beecher

All our bunch will gather at Glenda's house for Father's Day this Sunday. It gives us all such pleasure to honor our beloved Dad! To all of you Dad's who read the blog, God bless you!

There in every memory
See his love and care
Strength and hands to count on
Freely he does share
Provider, toil so faithfully
To make our dreams come true
Give strong and tender discipline
Though it is hard to do
A Father is God's chosen one
To lead the family
And point it to His will for life
Of love and harmony...
Sue Skeen

Practice makes perfect...

Danny went out to see Mom and Dad last week on Thursday. He said that Dad used his hemi-walker and made four rounds with it! Dad seemed in control and pretty well-balanced. Other than that, the visit was uneventful...

Mom has a follow-up-type doctor's appointment in Austin early this afternoon. She and Dad are picking us up and we are meeting Danny at Luby's for lunch. I think Luby's is Mom's favorite restaurant!!! After lunch, Danny, Ollie and I are coming back to our house so Dad can nap while Mom goes to her doctor's visit. I'm sure Mom will want to do a little running around before she comes back to pick up Dad! She doesn't want me to go with her to the doctor, but I plan to entice her with a visit to Stein Mart afterwards if she'll agree to let me go!!! I like to go with her and provide an extra set of ears. Also, Mom gets a little turned around when she's driving in town...so much has changed since they lived here! We'll see if she lets me go!!!

I'll write more after I see them today! Love to all!!!

Acupuncture works!

Mom called me this morning and sounded on top of the world! She took Dad for an acupuncture treatment yesterday in Marble Falls, to the office of a recommended practitioner. She said this morning Dad came in the kitchen with a great big smile on his face! They sat together and read articles out of the paper and laughed a lot! They must not have been reading the Austin American Statesman!!! Anyway, she said that they were having a wonderful morning together and that they decided that Dad would continue acupuncture treatments because they believe the treatments really help him feel better! Psalm 118:24 ~ This is the day the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it! Oh happy day!!! Amen!

Weekend of Reunions!

Dad loves all his family, but two reunions in two days was a little much for him! The Mabel Pauly Family Reunion (my Dad's Mom's side of the family) was Saturday . For the past 3 years it has been held at the ranch of my sister and her husband, Jean and Jimmie Plentl. They have a wonderful porch on the front of Jimmie's shop that is large enough to accommodate all of us. The weather was hot, but we were blessed with a cool breeze the entire day! Our crowd was smaller than the last few years, but it gave us a chance to visit with each other a little more. The most popular food item had to have been Barbara and Jimmy Haley's tamales from Lufkin! They were the best I'd ever had! Mmmm...I could eat about a half-dozen right now!!! Of course, everything else was delicious! Jean's blackberry cobbler dish was scraped clean!!! We missed the Seigler and Doyle families being there, but you can be assured that I will do a better job of nagging them for next year's gathering!

Everyone was pleased to see how well Mom and Dad looked! Mom has her girlish figure (I'll bet she can fit into her wedding gown that she wore 64 years ago!) and Dad looks healthy as can be! Dad moved around is his wheelchair and made sure he sat in on each group's conversations. I am such a talker that it would be so hard for me to sit and not be able to join in on the conversations. I can only imagine how difficult and frustrating it must be for him. He does seem to make the best of it, though. Proverbs 29:236 says...A man's pride brings him low, but a man of loyalty gains honor I know a lot of honorable men, but none more so than my father. He humbles himself to his situation and makes the best of it rather than hiding from the world. I can't tell you how much I respect him for that. I also hold my Mother in high esteem for her devotion to him..."give her the reward she has earned and let her works bring her praise at the City gate."

When Dad had gotten in the Suburban to go home, I kissed him and said I'd see him tomorrow! He quizzically looked at me so I reminded him that Sunday was the Goertz Reunion at Rockne! Oh the face he made! He absolutely loves that family, but two reunions two days in a row was a bit much to consider at that point!!! But, without surprise, they were in Rockne in time for the traditional 11:00 Mass in the Parish Hall with the family gathered!

The Goertz Reunion is my Mother's-Mother's-Mother's family! It's my Grandma Grohman's and her siblings' decendants. You won't believe this, but there were about 248 people there, and that's not nearly all of us!!! To say the least, the hall was packed and the food tables were loaded!!! That's the best lunch anywhere! Everyone brings covered dishes and it's some of the best food in this world!!! There's always fresh garden-grown tomatoes, green beans, squash and plenty of sausage and fried chicken!!! Then comes the desserts...unbelievable!!! The food isn't the best part though! It's the love that you feel the minute you walk in the door! We're a happy bunch and we love to kiss and hug! I always leave with my spirit refreshed! We are so blessed to have such wonderful heritage on both sides of our family!

Two reunions in one weekend is a lot, but it's so perfect to get in touch with family members that we don't see throughout the rest of the year and get it all done in one weekend!!! My poor husband Ollie gets "name-overload," who's that and who's she married to and what are their kids' names, but he's such a good sport!!!

So, until we see each of them again, we hold all our family members dearly in our hearts and love them through prayer! "Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it." ~Proverbs 22:6. Our parents have taught us the love of God and the love of family. What could be more important than that?!!! Amen.